When the Baggage Comes Undone

We all bring childhood or early life difficulties into our marriages. Recognizing the deep love your spouse has for you can go far in helping us resolve those struggles. On the other hand, we may get to a place in which our past traumas become overwhelming or terrifying.

Don’t expect your spouse to fix your past problems and issues for you. Seek professional counseling if you think it could help. View it as an investment in yourself and your marriage. Strive to understand and then move on.

If your spouse is struggling with past trauma, do what you can to support your spouse, but don’t try to take on the burden for your spouse. Encourage him or her to seek professional help and offer to participate if your presence would fortify him or her in that situation.

Working on your own issues with the support of your spouse can build and enhance your relationship.