Since I’m a planner, I often show my love to Debby by planning surprise vacations. It was sometimes just a quick overnight trip to a spa hotel or maybe a few days in the Caribbean. After her brother died in an accident, I took her on a surprise trip to Paris in attempt to ease her sadness. She didn’t find out where we were going until the airport security agent told her. Being creative with grand acts of love is one way I work to build my relationship with Debby.
You don’t have to copy what I did (though I am showing off a little). I want to encourage you to figure out what you could do to show your own unique love to your spouse in a creative and fun way. It starts with caring enough to make an effort. Remember, the opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s indifference.
Take time to think about what you love to do. Then think about what your spouse loves to do. Pray on it and God will lead you toward ways to show your love to your spouse.
One of God’s attributes is creativity. He made us in his image, so don’t try to claim you aren’t creative. You may be afraid of looking stupid; that’s not being uncreative, that’s being prideful. That’s the big sin to avoid. Making some mistakes while having fun seems more acceptable to God than sitting sour-faced and judging everyone else’s fun.
Your life may have a routine, but it doesn’t need to be boring. Do some crazy stuff. Have fun. Get out of your comfort zone. Try new things and work to build up your marriage relationship.
 Luke 6:37-42 and John 8:1-8