Recipe for Making Love

Do you ever ponder why God gave us sex? He designed this amazingly intimate activity that we do regularly for our entire lives (if we’re lucky). It seems to me that sex is a special intersection where the spiritual meets the physical. The previous chapter covered the spiritual, now let’s look at one practical recipe for the physical.

1.     The “Before You Start” List:

a.     Clean yourself. Pheromones are nice, but funky smells repel. Clean every area that may be dirty, including armpits, genitals, butt, feet, ears, mouth, etc.

b.     Consider shaving. Bristly hair feels like sandpaper.

c.     Perform fingernail and toenail maintenance. Remember that scene in Dumb and Dumber where they use an industrial high speed grinder to trim the toenails? Funny; not sexy. Make sure your nails are clean, trimmed, and smooth.

d.     Consider applying perfume or cologne. Go light here, though, as your lover will hopefully soon be licking those locations, and those products aren’t designed to taste good. Some natural essential oils (peppermint, vanilla, or lavender) can be wonderful for smell and taste.

e.     Set the mood with low lighting, candles, flowers, and whatever beauty you can create.

2.     A Recipe for Lovemaking:

a.     Massage her body over her clothes. Pay attention to her back, neck, and scalp.

b.     Transition to kissing. Have a nice make-out session. Take off shirts as kissing moves down to chests, torsos, and backs.

c.     Go back to massaging her, with a massage oil candle burning nearby. Put some of that hot oil on her back and give a good, deep-tissue back massage. Work up around her neck and scalp.

d.     As you are massaging, work your way down to her butt and take off her pants. Use that oil to massage each leg and foot.

e.     Have her turn over and start massaging her feet with massage oil. Massage up her legs, hips, belly, breasts, shoulders, neck, and face. Don’t linger on her private parts here; show some restraint, man!

f.      After some more kissing, let her take the lead. Kiss his neck, chest, belly, around the pubic area, thighs, balls, and finally work up to the penis. Don’t go to orgasm here, just work him up close to the edge, then transition to something else that feels good, but not quite that good.

g.     Now some more kissing and hugging and just rubbing your naked bodies against each other, rolling around into different positions.

h.     With him on top, look deeply into each other’s eyes and slowly slide the penis into the vagina. Don’t pound away for orgasm here, just slowly move in and out. See if he can ride up a bit higher and rub his penis against her clitoris. As he gets to the edge of orgasm, pull out and start just kissing.

i.      Then kiss and fondle down her neck, breasts, stomach and to the vulva.

j.      Perform cunnilingus slowly and with love. Bring her to orgasm.

k.     Then come back into the missionary position and finish.

I offer this recipe to illustrate the give and take of one beautiful love making session. Use your creativity and your love to satisfy each other in your own unique ways. And remember, it’s good to giggle in bed, just don’t point and giggle.